Privacy Matters: You're in Control of Who Knows

If you’re considering adoption and wondering, “Can I keep this private?” you’re not alone. Many birthmothers worry about how others will react, especially in small towns, schools, churches, or close-knit communities.

At CFK (Caring For Kids), we want to reassure you:

Yes, you can make a private adoption decision.

And no, you don’t owe anyone an explanation unless you want to share.

You Are Legally Allowed to Make an Adoption Plan Privately

In Ohio, there is no legal requirement to tell your family, friends, employer, or community that you are placing a child for adoption. You are allowed to keep your adoption decision between you and your adoption agency.

CFK will never pressure you to tell anyone.

We respect your boundaries and understand that confidentiality may help you feel emotionally safe.

Why Some Birthmothers Choose Privacy

Every situation is different. Some birthmothers want to share their plan openly, while others choose to keep it to themselves for deeply personal reasons.

You may prefer privacy because:

• You're worried about judgment or shame in your community
• You want to avoid drama or conflict with people who may disagree
• You’re not emotionally ready to explain your choice
• You simply believe this decision is yours alone

There is no wrong reason to keep your adoption decision private. Your comfort and emotional well-being are what matter.

How CFK Supports Confidential Adoption Plans

If you want your adoption plan to stay private, CFK will protect your confidentiality every step of the way. That includes how we communicate with you, how we schedule meetings, and how your records are handled.

We can:

• Use neutral language in texts, emails, and mail
• Schedule appointments around your privacy needs
• Meet virtually or at off-site locations
• Help you avoid unwanted calls or visits
• Ensure no identifying information is shared without your consent

You’re in charge of your story. We’re just here to support it quietly and respectfully.

Do I Have to Tell the Birthfather?

This depends on your situation. In Ohio, the birthfather may have legal rights depending on whether he is married to you, signed the birth certificate, or established paternity. However, CFK will work with you to:

• Help determine if the birthfather needs to be notified
• Protect your safety if you're in an unsafe relationship
• Respect your emotional boundaries as we navigate legal steps

You can still choose privacy from the rest of your community while we help with the legal pieces in the background.

What About the Hospital and Medical Records?

Hospitals in Ohio are used to helping birthmothers who choose adoption. When you work with CFK, we coordinate with the hospital staff to ensure your privacy is respected.

You do not need to explain your plan to other patients, nurses, or hospital visitors. We’ll help make sure your discharge plan and birth plan reflect your desire for confidentiality.

Will My Community Eventually Find Out?

Only if you decide to tell them. Birth records, adoption records, and placement documents are sealed in Ohio unless a court orders otherwise. This means:

• Your adoption plan is not public record
• Your name will not appear on any document sent to your community
• The adoptive family’s information is also protected

If someone asks where the baby is, you can say as much or as little as you want. Some birthmothers say the child is staying with relatives, or that they made a private parenting plan. You’re not obligated to explain.

What If I Regret Keeping It Private Later?

It’s okay if your feelings change. You might choose privacy now and decide later to open up to someone you trust. Or you may never share it and that’s valid too.

CFK will continue to support you no matter what. If you want to revisit your story later, we can help you:

• Write a letter to someone close to you
• Prepare for future conversations
• Process your emotions with a counselor

Your story doesn’t expire. Your truth is always yours to carry or share.

FAQ: Keeping Adoption Private

You Deserve Privacy and Respect

Choosing adoption is already a deeply personal journey. You shouldn’t have to carry the added stress of other people’s opinions or questions.

At CFK, we’re here to make this experience as safe, private, and respectful as possible. No matter who knows or doesn’t know you are making a decision rooted in love and courage.